Today we will talk about healthy couple relationships and communicate effectively, communication problems often lead to problems in relationships, which is not surprising. If you can not communicate with your partner, how can you cultivate a sense of closeness and love?

Basic communication problems often lead to broken relationships. This makes you wonder you’re doing wrong. Therefore, to start having relationships healthy partner , we will see below 5 errors common communication that threaten your relationships:

1. Do not ask personal questions. 

“How it was your day?” “How do you feel?”

There is nothing wrong with these two implicit questions if we look healthy couple relationships. But, if repeated too often takes on a sense of insincerity and shows a lack of interest. Many couples go through social topics they do not know what else to say, and these conversations to fill the void can lead to worse in a relationship. Why?

When you say something repetitive, fill, it implies that you do as a duty, as a nod when someone speaks to you but not paying attention. “Mm … I guess I have to ask now how it was the day”. This is not the message you’d want to send to someone you love.

However, when you say something unique, not only more attractive, you’re sending a statement like: “I care about you.” Try to ask things like: “Have you learned something new today?” Or “What made you smile today?” 

This last point is especially noteworthy because it shows that you are having real interest in emotional well-being of the other person, and that this will revive the happiest part of your day. It’s a better way to get a true beginning of conversation too.

2. Do not state the obvious. 

“I love you, your beauty leads to forest birds sing cheerful”.

Sometimes we need to hear the obvious, it is not enough to tell someone once you love him, because then they will ask, “But today really want me?” The same goes for compliments. When our needs are not met, we will look for them elsewhere, which can lead to a slippery slope.

3. Do not report a problem or harsh reality.

Healthy relationships are built and solid partner on the basis of being able to talk about anything. The more difficult and uncomfortable is a conversation, the more you will trust each other.

4. Do not communicate at all, or be passive aggressive.

Passive aggressiveness could be the most effective way to end a relationship. The first rule of communication is that you have to communicate. Do not talk to each other, or just talking on the defensive, or hide behind unthinking topics are ways to turn off the communication channel.

When communication stops, either literally or in part, that relationship begins to die. Think about this the next time you’re about to teach someone a lesson through silence.

Communication is the true source of life in a healthy relationship. Let it flow and do it effectively, this will make you overcome all obstacles facing couples. If you find that you never argue or fight, it’s great, but beware, because it may be a sign that you’re not communicating to complete with your partner to say “keep the peace”.

5. Do not listen and empathize.

When you hear the word “communication” Can you imagine someone talking or listening in silence ?. Most of us will imagine someone talking, but the key to communication is understanding the other person. When two people try to understand the other person, communication works best. When both people focus on communicating your own thoughts, who is there to listen ?.

Empathy is the other key component of relational communication. Empathy is understanding and emotional bond with your partner. Think about how important it is: If you do not show empathy, the other person will feel alone in their difficult times. Many people often skip mode “advise” too fast. But when people share their problems, often they do not need advice, just need emotional support.

Makes the decision to commit to practice healthy communication with your partner and relationships now, and work together to improve as a team.

The first step: Share this article with your partner, and tell what area are going to improve to be better with him or her.

A hug,

Elias Berntsson

(Source: Stephen Guise – www.mindbodygreen.com)