Why are we attracted to the wrong people?
Many are asking the question: “Why do I attract people who do wrong in my life?” The answer is very simple:
Because your “wounded” is drawing.
We explain that it is the “wounded”. We all have 2 “”: The “little I” (the ego, the wounded) and “being spiritual” (the higher, adult, or soul). The hurt is the part of you that feels incomplete. Question your worth, you do not feel full, and feel imperfect in some way. My hurt is the “little me” wondering if unlovable.
On the other hand, we also have a spiritual being. This is your soul, your being superior. It is the part of you that is connected with love, truth, wisdom and inner peace. Your spiritual I know without a doubt how you’re adorable and precious. This is the opposite of ego.
At one point, we are operating from one of these two forms in themselves. Many of us unfortunately, we operate from the point of view of ego most of the time. That is, we believe that we are insignificant and powerless in some way, and we try all the time to compensate for this lack.
The ego seeks to find external validation and feel complete things. That you think if you get more (more money, a better relationship, a better job, a better house, a better family, more holidays, etc.) finally be happier.
But the truth is that it is never enough, you’re never happy, at least not for long because of the very nature of the ego is always feeling dissatisfied. Therefore, when you live through the perspective of the ego, you are bound to feel that something you are missing. Life through this lens is not very amusing, however it is exhausting.
The ego is activated to their highest levels when it comes to romantic relationships, because relationships is where we tend to be more vulnerable.
Most of us have been disappointed or hurt by a relationship in the past, we carry the memory of this wound (sometimes unconsciously). If a wound of childhood still hurting you whenever you remember, you will attract people who will recreate the same feeling . For example, if your wound is focused on feeling rejected or feel invisible, chances are you feel similarly with the relationships you currently have.
Your unconscious is programmed to attract people who activate your wounds. The reason for this is to grow as a person .
This is a frustrating part of the growth process, but this way you repeat your wounds order to heal root . We can not heal what you do not feel or see, we can not heal the things that are unconscious, the uncomfortable feeling has to come to the surface to grow more than the situation.
“? And how to grow more than her” You’re wondering, the answer is:
Identifying yourself with your higher self.
Remember that your higher self is the part of you that knows the truth about you. Know that you are capable, that you are worthy / a, incredible, powerful / a. Through the lens of being superior, you have everything. If you’re a flawed human being with faults. But the great truth is that you have soul.
- You’re beautiful / a.
- You are important.
- You are special.
- You are love.
That’s what the higher self knows about you, and wants you to know too.
To identify yourself with your higher self (love in you) your attraction to revive old wounds with others dissipates and in some cases, it disappears.
When you wake up to your higher self, you realize that the “wrong” people were only teachers who taught you to have a right state of mind. Nothing inspires more to grow than a broken heart.
Your higher self wants to identify with you, wants you to see what you really are. Retrieves the love that is within you, and your relationships sanaras inside out.
(Source: Shelly Bulla rd – www.mindbodygreen.com)